Good Parenting Means LeadershipDec 12, 2023
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Good Parenting Means Leadership
"I am SO sick of cleaning constantly. This house is always a disaster."
"We are so BUSY - I'm running in 10 directions at once all day long."
"I need a freaking BREAK! Just 10 minutes where no one wants anything from me? Heaven!"
Every new client call includes remarks like these. Feeling this way results from a common mistake we make as parents: Trying to be the head and the tail at once.
Leaders of Our Family
As parents, we are leaders of our families, but we spend way too much time acting like grunt workers instead, which makes us terrible at leadership.
Many parents I talk to have a problem delegating to other family members, bringing in outside help, or disciplining in a way that lets their kids do their own heavy lifting. Sometimes, there are logistic or financial obstacles, which I help them overcome. But most of the time, it's because of a nonsense belief that the grunt work of running a family goes hand-in-hand with being a good parent.
Hear this, Parents!
Hear this: Your kids will still have a great childhood even if you're not the one scrubbing their toilet or if they drive to soccer with Billy's dad every other week.
And handing your kids' problems back with love (by consequencing them for their mess instead of cleaning it up, for example) enhances their childhood even more!
A huge part of parents' challenges is not about parenting or behavior at all but rather the herculean feat of making families function. I don't just work on parenting skills with my clients. My job is also to empower them to step into their role as a leader.
Managing a family is similar to managing any other group of people. When you're the head of something, you have the big picture in mind, make executive decisions, and supervise the execution of all the things. You strategize and problem-solve, mentor, and train. This mindset is a game-changer in parenting, how we run our homes, and how we respond to our kids' behavior.
We can't delegate many parenting tasks and would never want to. I WANT to be the boo-boo kisser, vacation planner, confessor, and cheerleader, and delegating where I'm replaceable makes me SO much better at the things where no one can take my place.
Family management may seem like the least sexy part of my coaching work. Scheduling, chores, childcare, delegation... it's boring. But the transformation when my clients embody leadership is extraordinary. As you might imagine, the feelings of being overwhelmed, busyness, exhaustion, and chaos fade away. But it goes further than that. Kids' behavior improves, parents feel confident and on top of things, and the vibe in the family becomes peaceful and connected.
When my clients make this shift, they become skilled, organized, and in control; it's no surprise that the people they lead feel it, too, and fall in line.
If you want help leading your family, we should meet. Book a free discovery call and share the struggles of running your family. We'll talk about the behavior, energy, and organization in your home, and you'll walk away knowing exactly what to do to turn it all around.
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In addition to (or maybe instead of?) the holiday goodies whose sparkle fades by mid-January, how about something that will create joy and happiness forever? Imagine giving yourself and your family the gift of peace, closeness, cooperation, and respect for life!
Ready to finally figure out how to do this parenthood thing right?
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