What is our job as mothers? I love to ask my clients this, because it gets right to the heart of many parenting problems. The most common response I get is something like:
"It's my job to raise a successful, kind, healthy and happy person."
This seems like the most sacred purpose someone could strive for, right? But so much goes into that noble job: getting kids to do homework, have manners, be responsible, listen to us, not yell or hurt others...the list goes on and on. Do we even know HOW to get them to do any of that?
Setting ourselves an impossible task, feeling like we lack the skills to do it, and believing that failure is unacceptable - this is a recipe for disaster. And the disaster looks like a frazzled mom at a loss for how to get her kids to behave.
But what if our task wasn't impossible? What if it was totally doable? Not because raising a successful, kind, healthy, happy person is actually easy, but because that was never our job in the first place.
I believe that the only person we have the ability (or right!) to control is ourselves. If that’s true, getting kids to do certain things or be a certain way has no place in a parent’s job description. When parents allow themselves to let that go, their children’s behavior improves very quickly.
Reframing your role as a mom will change every parenting problem in your life.
Motherhood is not about arguing with reality and coming up short. It’s time to create a new, ACCURATE job description for yourself; one that will bring you and your family so much joy and (paradoxically) create way more change in your child's behavior than your old job description ever could.
Tomorrow and Thursday, I am leading a FREE workshop that will rewrite your job description and transform your child's behavior, immediately.
We will cover natural consequences, effective delivery, staying calm, and the things that trip us up. And, you'll have a chance to get your specific questions answered live by me on the spot! You’ll redefine your role, master discipline, and feel like you're nailing it at this mommy job once and for all!
Register Here: https://ann-kaplan-coaching.mykajabi.com/workshop
Join us and embrace your true purpose as a mom:
Break Free From Frustrated Parenting