"I Will Try to Fix You" and Other Dumb Parent Ideas

parenting help parenting plan workshop Feb 01, 2022
I will try to fix you

Oh Chris Martin, what a silly little man you are to have written an ode to codependency...just another brick in the wall turning dysfunction into an object of lust and worship.

The truth is that the whole world invites us to live co-dependently, and most of us have RSVP’d a resounding ‘hell yes’ to that invitation.

What is codependency? Basically, it's a belief that our happiness and safety come from the way our loved ones feel:

 I need you to be ok because I can’t be ok when you’re not ok.

Why do we love codependency so much?

Because we were taught to. Conventional parenting IS codependency. It teaches only LIES:

  • Our kids’ behavior is our job - we must control them.
  • Our kids’ struggles are our fault.
  • Being a flawed human hurts our children.
  • We have the ability and duty to take away our kids’ hardship, make them happy, and fix their problems.
  • We would feel better if our kids would just BE better.
  • Everyone is judging you and their judgments are right.
  • Our happiness is held hostage by the people we love.
  • We need others’ approval to know we’re doing well.
  • Our goal should be to make everyone happy and avoid any unpleasantness.
  • Making mistakes is disgusting and hurts everyone.

How about no?

If you’re not registered for next week’s FREE Parenting Revolution workshop, it’s time to click the link and make it happen.

We are going to be learning how to say NO to this codependent messaging and choose a different path. I will teach you:

  • How to see your child’s journey through healthy eyes
  • How to create an INTERdependent relationship with them, and
  • Effective, HEALTHY responses to their behavior

We get to create a whole new way to parent, and therefore a whole new world…a world where fixing someone else is just plain silly, and Coldplay is super lame. 

Learn more and register here. 

Love, Ann