The Nuances Of NeutralitySep 19, 2023
How am I supposed to be loving and neutral at the same time?
The Nuances Of Neutrality - I get this very fair question (or sometimes just a skeptical look) when I talk about giving neutral, loving consequences to kids. Uh, hello? If I’m neutral about something, how can I also be emotional about it?
Let me explain:
We are neutral about our kids’ choices. We are madly in love with our kids.
Simple, right? Ha!
It’s damn hard to be neutral about some of our kids’ choices, and not easy to feel loving toward someone whose choices piss us off. Plus, most of us blend our feelings about our kids and their choices into one confusing blob.
And a lot of parents understandably worry that being neutral toward their children will come off as dismissive or cold.
That’s where I come in. It’s my job to help you:
- Separate your kid from their choices
- Learn to stay neutral about their choices
- Deliver consequences with love
The result is neutrality that is supportive, NOT dismissive. It shows kids that our love is unconditional, which helps them accept their mistakes instead of beating themselves up. And it preserves our relationship with them even when we have to discipline them.
Getting to neutrality about misbehavior is challenging on your own.
We need help to work on this and make progress bit by bit. Ready? It starts by connecting with me - set up a free Discovery Call, and let’s talk about it. I want to know your story and understand your challenges. I will help you clarify what you want to create with your family and create a roadmap to get you there. Ultimately, we will determine how we fit and whether we will begin a coaching relationship that will transform your parenting forever. Book it now - you know you want to!
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