Looking for a Gold Star
Jul 01, 2025
Looking for a Gold Star?
When we seek PROOF we're doing a good job as parents, we miss what truly matters.
The Gold Star Trap
We've all been there. That moment when your child finally completes a chore without being asked, or brings home an excellent report card, and you think, "I must be doing something right!"
But what happens when the next day brings a meltdown or a bad decision? Does that mean you're doing something wrong when, just yesterday, you were a parenting rockstar? Now your confidence and steadiness are strapped to the roller coaster of your kid’s behavior and development. It's hard for our kids to get the stability and reassurance they need from us when we don’t have it to give!
The truth is, parenting isn't a performance to be graded; it's a journey to be cherished. It's a relationship to be nurtured.
But we forget this, don’t we?
I bet there's a part of you that thinks – I’ll know I’m nailing it when...
- Their grades move up
- Their friendships improve
- The fighting in the house dwindles
- The tantrums disappear
- The lying stops
- The need to repeat myself a million times goes away
- Their homework is done on time
..and on, and on…
STOP. This need for proof is the exact thing stopping you from knowing your worth, showing up in your gifts, and not just doing a 'good job', but the BEST you can ever offer to your child.
Step Into Your True Parenting Power
I'm here to help you release this focus on external validation and step into your true parenting power. Imagine what would be possible if you:
- Trusted your intuition without second-guessing
- Celebrated connection over compliance
- Responded to challenges with confidence instead of fear
- Found joy in the journey, not just the milestones
Let me show you how to break free from the gold star trap and discover the confidence that comes from within.
Ready to transform your parenting experience? Book a free discovery call and let's explore what's possible for you and your family.
The most profound parenting transformation happens when we stop looking for proof and start trusting our capacity to love. Let's take that journey together.
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