Why You Won't Get a List of Consequences from Me
May 06, 2025
Why You Won't Get a List of Consequences from Me - Most of my clients are excited to get lots of ideas about consequences from me when we start our work. Their kids’ misbehavior feels like an impossible game of whack-a-mole, and with the right mallet for every misbehavior, we’ll win in no time, right?
Whelp, that ain’t happening. Whoever saw a multi-hammered whack-a-mole game? It doesn’t exist! (also your kid isn't a carnival game, so there's that).
List of Consequences
So, we don’t start with a list of consequences. In fact, in our first month, you’ll probably work with fewer consequences than before you hired me! Most of my clients begin with only one consequence in their arsenal!
Consequence Delivery Matters
Here’s the thing - HOW you’re delivering consequences matters so much more than what they are, and it is hard to focus on your energy, tone, and words when you’re also scrolling through a menu of options. Starting with one catch-all consequence means no more wasting brainpower wondering what consequence to use. Now you can use your energy to stay present and connected to your child in discipline moments, with one beautiful goal:
Immediate, calm consequences without lecturing, anger, or shame
The beginning of our work together is about becoming a Zen consequence ninja instead of a carnie with a mallet, and that’s plenty, trust me.
Simplify Things
Simplifying things like this allows us to realize how much of parenting is about addressing our own emotions, and to learn to do that. We begin to understand the difference between responding and reacting, and why it’s hard not to get reactive.
This all starts with a free Discovery Call where I learn about your challenges and understand exactly what you’re up against. Then I can give you honest feedback and show you how to turn things around. It’s free, it’s all for you and your family, and it can change your life. What are you waiting for?
Ultimately, I will help you create a fabulous, personalized list of consequences for your child…after the zen ninja bit!
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